The Meaning of Marriage: Facing the Complexities of Commitment with the Wisdom of God

Timothy Keller reflects on his experience ministering to a largely single congregation in Manhattan. Initially assuming singles wouldn’t need as much teaching on marriage, Keller soon realized that single adults needed a robust Biblical view of marriage to live faithfully in their singleness. Without this, singles risk idolizing or devaluing marriage, both of which can distort their personal lives and relationships.

In 1 Corinthians 7, Paul presents singleness as acceptable and in many ways preferable. While the passage may seem confusing or even dismissive of marriage, Keller explains that Paul is speaking within the framework of the “overlap of the ages” (193). Christians live between two realities—the brokenness of this world and the dawning of God’s kingdom. Because of this, believers are to live with a light grip on all worldly conditions, including marriage. Both singleness and marriage are temporary states, and neither should define our identity. Fulfillment comes not from a spouse but from union with Christ.

Keller emphasizes that Christianity uniquely elevates singleness. Unlike other traditions, which place ultimate value on marriage and procreation, the early church—following the example of Jesus and Paul—viewed singleness as a viable and even honorable way of life. In ancient times, legacy and social worth were tied to family and heirs, but Christians who remained single demonstrated radical trust in God as the one who secures their future.