The Sound of Gravel: A Memoir

Content Warning: This section of the guide contains discussion of child abuse, physical abuse, emotional abuse, and death.

Gather initial thoughts and broad opinions about the book.

1. Wariner presents an unflinching portrait of life in a polygamist colony through vivid, often disturbing detail. Which scenes or descriptions from her childhood stayed with you most powerfully, and why do you think these particular moments had such impact?

2. The memoir shares similarities with other accounts of escaping restrictive religious communities, such as Tara Westover’s Educated. How do these narratives compare in their portrayal of family loyalty versus self-preservation? What distinguishes Wariner’s perspective?

3. Throughout the memoir, Wariner balances deep love for her mother with honest criticism of Kathy’s choices. How effective was this approach in helping you understand their complex relationship? Did your feelings toward Kathy evolve as the story progressed? If so, how?

Encourage readers to connect the book’s themes and characters with their personal experiences.

1. Ruth’s relationship with her siblings provided purpose during her difficult childhood. How have your own family relationships shaped your sense of identity and purpose during difficult times?

2. The